A Key Insight Into Trump
I finally get it! I understand Donald Trump. But don’t get your hopes up. It’s probably too late to matter.
My insight comes from 70+ years of personal experience. Constantly working on myself to improve. It’s because of this, all the pieces finally “clicked into place” today as reports of Trump’s behavior and condition were flowing by.
It was truly an “I get it!” moment. So chill for a minute as “George Plays a Jung Freud” because this has everything to do with America’s future.
The Deep Background Readings
Several books that come to mind. One, I can’t even remember the exactly name of it, was about something the author called “Family Olympics.” The book came out in the early 1970’s, so this goes back a long ways…
It’s how in families – when children are in their formative years in loving and supportive families – there’s an ongoing series of “events.” As in Olympics.
In these settings, where everything is viewed (by loving parents) as a contest, it’s one of the ways that the drive is coded into children to strivde for personal success (in all things, not just business) is encouraged.
OK – hold that thought.
The “break” (or missing element may be closer to it) in these “family games” is that there’s little emphasis on confrontation.
Here’s the key: This is where a young child learns the contextualizing of Truth.
A personal shortcoming confession here: I can think of times in my own past where I have shaded the truth a bit in order spare other people’s feelings. Over time, deep introspection, and self-learning, I joined the “Truth in Your Face” (at all costs) camp. When one is young (like under 50) Truth is not particularly welcome.
“Pretty Lies” I think is how Joni Mitchell wrote it. Children, being insecure, craving affection, and positive strokes really WANT parents to shade things to spare them pain. Children don’t value Truth highly enough.
The Big Bad Ugly Truth is that if you don’t spare people pain, you won’t have too many friends. At least, that’s the fear when young.
Now: What if you never outgrew that? What happens when the pattern of “little lies” is never challenged? How does that work out in adulthood?
Paradoxically: Successfully. The whole-hog, always “game-on” and narcissism may be then viewed as a denial mechanism. Compensatory behavior for a soft, gooey middle. That’s how Truth transforms.
Which is how a hyper business man, for example, might lie to a spouse while cheating – it’s all to save the spouse pain. But, at the same time seek fulfillment. Because likely, the one fooling around wasn’t getting “what they wanted” at home.
Now comes the loop: They can’t ask — for fear of causing pain, or suffering personal rejection — which risks their relationship – for what they really want. From here, events go spiraling.
Which Has What to Do With Trump?
Not seeing it,. yet? This is where it gets interesting.
The big “clicking” for me came reading the headline “News Analysis: A history of falsehoods comes back to haunt the COVID-stricken president.”
The pattern is there, now, clear as day.
Did Trump ever fool around? Seems likely. But would he deny it, so as to avoid hurting feelings and putting relationships at risk? Pay for a friendly divorce? I wouldn’t bet against it. Relationships matter deeply.
That’s the “good news” – such as it is: This reflects a very warm and caring person. Just one who doesn’t like to lose friends, standing, and sources of Love. (Who does, right?) But he’s still going to do what HE wants.
As a result, Trump then became very generous to others (as in giving money anonymously to first responders in New York). Light shading (like a #4 HB pencil) of Jekyll and Hyde…but without the violence. More like an internal dialog, argument, and “balancing act.” With compensatory behavior.)
His Relationships Went, Anyway
Sparing people’s feelings is a slippery moral slope. And Trump, by all accounts is on it. Slip-sliding away.
When I read a story like Politico’s “How Mark Meadows Became the White House’s Unreliable Source” the take-out is it’s “just another collateral damage report.” It demonstrates AGAIN that one “little lie” leads to a “bigger one” and this (don’t look surprised) leads to an even bigger one.
Arranging the Lies by Size
We really can’t do that. There are simply too many. There’s a kind of juvenile “arrested development” being confronted now by Trump.
We can’t be sure – now – how much to chalk up to fear of hurting feelings or whether there aren’t examples of a bad boy, not wanting to get caught and face punishment. We will defer to future history on that.
What we can do it look at actions that speak louder than words:
- “Trump Didn’t Disclose First Positive Covid-19 Test While Awaiting a Second Test on Thursday ” says the Wall St. Journal
- Even as his “sales pitch continues” in “‘I feel I could go out and do a rally’: Trump reported to be in good spirits.“
- Yet. in a surprisingly insightful report, the NY Times reported this weekend that what we’re seeing may be “A White House Long in Denial Confronts Reality.“
Sounds about right. Yet it’s likely not just the White House, but the man himself who is in crisis now.
Trump has to confront not only a lifetime accumulation of “not wanting to hurt feelings” as a strategy, but also pulling through a potentially life-threatening illness. That’s a lot of baggage to unpack all at once – especially in the middle of a political campaign culminating in less than a month.
But I’m not the only one to see it. Go read the report casting “Donald Trump ‘worried’ and ‘less assured’ as he battles Covid-19, body language guru says.”
What Trump has going for him? Melania. Supportive children. And a whole lot of people praying for him…a third of the country, anyway.
Yet still: Trump lets the tweets fly from inside Walter Reed hospital. He’ll have timem to work through the insights and move ahead with personal change, but not until the election is done.
Classic Good vs. Evil Study?
One more want to look at events, before I take down my “George the
Psycho Shrink” sign for the day.
At a global, macro level, the world gets what it chooses. Good is off choosing one future while evil is off choosing another. Both are seeking self-gratification and ends.
We figure this to be a dandy time watch the classic Battle Between Good and Evil play out. We have people praying for Trump, but we also know there are lots of people intending him toward defeat, and death with hatred.
Individually – and as a whole world – we become what we intend and what we choose. The voting at the psycho-spiritual level is going on right now.
The coming period will be revelatory at the global mass consciousness level. An eye on the Princeton Global Consciousness Project may be in order. Extreme order may briefly appear in seeming chaos. And visa versa.
Meanwhile, if you and I can see the crisis mounting, so can other countries not founded on the same quality foundations as our. Interesting times ahead, indeed. Flash point watch has been set.
Impacting everyone: Like the Florida man who requested mail-in ballot for dead wife: ‘I feel like I haven’t done anything wrong’. No, of course not…. Isn’t it really America that has “issues”?
Stock market is still sick. Total denial – buying the rumors, perhaps? One minor news item today is the Purchasing report due 15-minutes into the session.
Hour to the open Dow futures up 200 points. And I’m the Pope. Does this mean the market expects Joe Biden won’t be so bad, after all? What does the DSM-5 say about denial?
Or, is it just money – printed up at never-before-seen rates – has to go somewhere? How many UHD TV’s do you need? And is it really worth working two jobs to buy another car or motorcycle payment? We are drowning in things, still empty in our souls.
Therefore, Life Marches On
Stupidly? Incomprehensibly? Sure.
Supreme Court hearings are moving forward, despite COVID-19 diagnoses for senators, says this report. We expect legal challenges will block, but wait! Could we have a Justice hearing her own case? Naw…dragons don’t swallow their tails…yet we love the notion.
The useless out of DC never stops. Our poster child today? “Nancy Pelosi says progress is being made on more US stimulus, and tells airlines ‘don’t fire people’.”
If Nancy were more honest, though no worries there, she would have said “We’re STILL not going to do anything Trump could take credit for…and when it comes – because we are $27 trillion in debt – it will have to be less than you were hoping for. And yeah, I don’t have any money to buy airlines, but let’s talk about nationalizing them after the election, shall we?” Remember where you heard it first.
Tropical Depression / Storm Gamma is, as we voiced concerns about this weekend, turning to the north and may head for Texas. If it does, we’ll give you a Gamma-Gamma ding-dong. (Oo-Ee-Oo-Ah-Ah, Ting-Tang, Walla-Walla, Bing-Bang…) (google it, lol)
And if you’re still waiting for war? You call tell it’s Monday when Armenia, Azerbaijan Clashes Resume Over Separatist Region.
Maybe things will made more sense tomorrow. Thenn again…
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